It has helped me a whole lot! My husband and I went to counseling to talk through our feelings and attitudes and it helps have a third party — it took a while and it was work, but we both wanted to save the marraige and so felt it was worth it to do whatever we needed to do.
Thank you guys so much!! This post from Barb Hudson might help! Do you feel like every time you get physically intimate it has to be fireworks? The only easy road is the one where you give up, stop trying and slowly waste away.